Porc Therapy 140: Jealousy In Relationships

Stephanie and Mike talk about whatever issues or questions you have. In this episode:

[listener feedback]
hello. im the sex at dawn post gal- just to clarify a few things: im not spam ;)

i have listened to the show and i agree that insecurity, fear and religious guilt (which may have lead to a premature commitment) lead to cheating. lack of communication definately. a thought proposed from this book is: why is is necessarily more moral to divorce, esp. with kids, turn their lives upside down etc. if one or both partners want to sleep with someone else? what if partner A is sick and cant be sexual anymore? if partner B gets their sexual needs met with someone extramaritally and continues to be a lifepartner/caretaker – is that automatically immoral? (this concept is also from savage love..)

anyway, thanks for reading my post. i feel almost famous. haha ;)

basically, i am always questioning our societies judeo-christian system of morality, and have found it fairly lacking in humanity. also, the DRAMA! our 6yr old coming home visibally upset that her friends ‘boyfriend’ is CHEATING..(i have no idea what this means to first graders; im not sure she does either) but this whole pop-culture meme just..ugh..

sorry for the abundance of comments, but just one more thing… i think its tragic, in a way, how much guilt people feel who dont fit into our idealized/ christianized version of human sexuality. how many people feel defective because they dont want monagomy (esp. women)? not to mention homosexuality. i just think if we had a more realistic and humanistic view of our sexuality, it would make for a healthier, less angsty and guilt-ridden society. like the french :)

[topic]
I’d like to talk about open relationships. My question is not so much for me – I get it. My problem is with my girlfriend. I don’t know how to answer some of her questions, mostly about jealousy and such, because I don’t have it. I’m just not that guy.

So, if you have a link or two that I could pass along, that would be great.

Thanks for everything!

[stuff we talk about]
• Our show that the feedback was about: http://goo.gl/FQJHH
• NAP: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Non-aggression_principle
and: http://www.lewrockwell.com/block/block26.html
and: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=muHg86Mys7I
• “The Ethical Slut:” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ethical_Slut
and: http://goo.gl/WzLNc
• NVC: https://www.cnvc.org/
• “Opening Up:” http://openingup.net/
• Polyamory Weekly: http://polyweekly.com/

[Disclaimer]
Take us with a grain of salt!