Porc Therapy 086: Volyamory

Stephanie and Mike talk about whatever issues or questions you have. This episode’s question(s):

Dear Porc Therapy

Although I live in the soft socialist gulag of Sweden I have been fortunate enough to be introduced to libertarian ideas, and through the Free State Project I stumbled upon your show. I have been listening for a few days now and I quite enjoy both the format and the content.

I do however have a problem/topic that may be interesting for you to have on the show (and where an answer may really help me). A couple of months ago my girlfriend suggested that we should try a polyamorous relationship with another woman. I was at first apprehensive but I figured that I had the capacity for polyamory and that there would be certain advantages in such a relationship. We found an appropriate woman and both my girlfriend and I quickly became close friends with this woman, but it also quickly became apparent the other woman was neither sexually nor romantically interested in my girlfriend. However because this new girl was such a great person we continued to meet her.

The problem is that I now get a strong vibe that the new girl is romantically interested in me, and I am becoming increasingly interested in her to the point that I would say that I am in love. However I also love my girlfriend very deeply, we have been together for 4 years now, the sex is great, the communication is great, and I have never been as happy as I have been being with her. Nevertheless I cannot get rid of the idea that I could be even happier with the new girl. One thing my slightly insane “in love” mind keeps focusing on is that the new girl is an intellectual which is something I have always somewhat missed in my girlfriend. This is the first thing in my relationships with my girlfriend where I did not wish to talk openly about my feelings.

How do I resolve this? And is there any specific methodology that you can propose?
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