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Archive for October, 2010

What is your reputation? Is it really yours? How do you change your reputation? Why would you want to?

I’ve recently encountered the idea of polyamory, and find that it fits me very well. I’ve never been entirely monogamous, but always faithful, and presently love several different women. One in particular presents a problem I don’t see a solution to. We have a long distance friendship, and have for many years. We both love each other, and in the past were close to dating. Life sadly, had other plans for both of us. Now, after discovering the idea of polyamory, new possibilities have arisen. I want to pursue a long distance polyamorus relationship with her, and while she is willing to try it herself, she is presently in a long term monogamous relationship. Neither of us want to endanger her present relationship, and she doesn’t feel that her partner would be interested in the idea of opening their relationship, to the point she feels even bringing up the idea would risk either a break up, or her being asked not to contact me anymore. I would appreciate it if you could provide some ideas on a way to help us open up their relationship, without destroying it.

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I have a lover that used to live nearby and it was easy to spend time with one another, but that has changed. We work shifts that conflict with one another and we have a good amount of distance between us. I still love him very much, but because we have less time to spend together we are having sex less and less.

I love him very much, but I am wanting to seek sex elsewhere and I don’t want to end the relationship because of it. One day we might have more time for each other.

How do I break this to to him without breaking his heart?

PS. Porc Therapy kicks ass and I discovered you via the School Sucks episode you guest starred on.

My friend keeps an online journal that’s visible to some people, including me but not her boyfriend. In it, she complains about her boyfriend all the time and recently she began writing about information she discovered by spying on him, like the fact that he has been talking with his ex girlfriend. She was very upset about this but did not want to confront him about this because then she would have had to admit that she was spying. She’s asking me what she should do. What should I tell her?

What is the difference between ostracism and bullying?

Marcus joins us to discuss his dilemma: he has two new colleagues at work who constantly complain and are beginning to negatively affect him, and he wants to know how to deal with the situation.

On September 28, 2010, Stephanie and Mike joined “Thinking Liberty” podcast for an episode, where we talked about puns, drama, Grafton Gulch, suicide, rabbit meat, and more.

http://ThinkingLiberty.net
http://GraftonGulch.com

We discuss a SF Weekly article titled “Cop ‘Arrests’ 15-Year-Old For Having Sex With Officer’s Daughter.” If you accept a system where some people have power over others, then it is inevitable that at least some of those people will abuse their power.

http://blogs.sfweekly.com/thesnitch/2010/09/cop_arrests_14-year-old_for_ha.php

Porc Therapy 086: Volyamory

October 4, 2010
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Dear Porc Therapy

Although I live in the soft socialist gulag of Sweden I have been fortunate enough to be introduced to libertarian ideas, and through the Free State Project I stumbled upon your show. I have been listening for a few days now and I quite enjoy both the format and the content.

I do however have a problem/topic that may be interesting for you to have on the show (and where an answer may really help me). A couple of months ago my girlfriend suggested that we should try a polyamorous relationship with another woman. I was at first apprehensive but I figured that I had the capacity for polyamory and that there would be certain advantages in such a relationship. We found an appropriate woman and both my girlfriend and I quickly became close friends with this woman, but it also quickly became apparent the other woman was neither sexually nor romantically interested in my girlfriend. However because this new girl was such a great person we continued to meet her.

The problem is that I now get a strong vibe that the new girl is romantically interested in me, and I am becoming increasingly interested in her to the point that I would say that I am in love. However I also love my girlfriend very deeply, we have been together for 4 years now, the sex is great, the communication is great, and I have never been as happy as I have been being with her. Nevertheless I cannot get rid of the idea that I could be even happier with the new girl. One thing my slightly insane “in love” mind keeps focusing on is that the new girl is an intellectual which is something I have always somewhat missed in my girlfriend. This is the first thing in my relationships with my girlfriend where I did not wish to talk openly about my feelings.

How do I resolve this? And is there any specific methodology that you can propose?

We talk about a few things this episode.

1) Athiests Know More About Religion Than Believers
http://newsfeed.time.com/2010/09/28/survey-atheists-know-more-about-religion-than-believers/

2) Neonatal Circumcision Death Rate Higher Than Suffocation and Auto Accidents Combined
http://www.examiner.com/family-health-in-washington-dc/new-study-estimates-neonatal-circumcision-death-rate-higher-than-suffocation-and-auto-accidents

3) Stephanie’s friend is afraid to decline an invitation to a wedding he doesn’t want to attend. We discuss being assertive and honest.

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