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Stephanie and Mike talk about whatever issues or questions you have. This episode’s question(s):
Let me give a little bit of backstory first, shall I?
I am an emotional, caring, loving, sensitive, empathic person. I am also a highly sexual and passionate person. The first is a little odd by today’s standards since I’m a man, but the latter is not at all unusual.
I have a lot of female friends. Many more so than the number of male friends I have, actually. I like this and enjoy this. Because I’m in touch with my emotions and give a damn about the emotions of my (mostly) female friends, I’ve found myself in “brother mode” or “best-friend mode” far too often than I like.
I know part of the reason for this. I am extremely conservative when it comes to boundaries. I like and enjoy touching, for instance, but I am terrified of touching someone who isn’t interested in being touched. I’m hesitant to express my desire for a sexual relationship (no particular one, just in general) because I’m afraid of changing or ruining the incredibly intimate relationships I’ve formed.
I suppose my question comes down to this: How do I indicate to my close friends that I’m interested in a sexual relationship as well as the intimate friendship while not ruining the existent friendship or making it “weird”?
Additionally, I’ve never been very good at ‘dating’, my relationships always evolve from deep friendships. Do you have any advice on how to initiate a dating/sexual relationship without my desire for emotional intimacy coming across as a way to “get into her pants”?
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Porc Therapy is a pro-freedom relationship talk show that takes a unique look at the question of how we can attain the most individual liberty possible, starting with our personal lives and relationships with others. 
My advice is simple. When you meet a girl for the first time, every guy knows within 2 seconds whether or not they would like to sack the girl. If she is a girl you’d like to sack, don’t spend more than 2 days with her becoming friends. Make a move soon or not at all. If you’ve been friends for months or years, you’re too late.
If she rejects you at least it’s at the very beginning and she can then decide whether or not she still wants to be friends. If she does, cool, but at least you’re not left wondering and eating your heart out for the rest of your life.
There is nothing worse than a guy who befriends girls they want to sack, but never comes out about it. I’ve dated a few girls that had “guy friends” that you knew just wanted her for themselves. It’s almost impossible to be friends with that person and it freaks the girls out when they find out he’s been pining after them for months or years.
Also, don’t verbalize wanting a sexual relationship. If you bring up sex and you’ve never even kissed her yet, you’re done for.
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