Porc Therapy 041: Argument Obligation?

Stephanie and Mike talk about whatever issues or questions you have. This episode’s question(s):

I’m in the midst of the death-throes of a relationship. Big two hour long fight/discussion today – bf wants more “further” discussion this evening. I said that I preferred the day time, and he got so upset with me.

After two hours of fighting and many more hours of enduring passive-aggression, I’m tapped out. I told him that I would feel trapped and uncomfortable with doing this at night (after my 8 year old goes to sleep). He said, “That’s life.” And being a stubborn sovereign type, I said, “No, it isn’t.”

Cascade of slamming doors, BF takes off in his Jeep, tires a-squealing, etc.

Am I a bad person for not tolerating being pulled into a horrible fight again? I’d like the chance for us both to process what was said. And if *I* want to leave the house for any reason, I don’t want that to involve waking up a sleeping child, whom, btw, has been ill and sleeping poorly.

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