Your love’s sister is about to have a baby and requests that you get an influenza vaccination (a “flu shot”) in order to come visit and see the baby, but you are opposed to the flu shot (for, perhaps, legitimate reasons!). What do you do? In this episode we talk about a listener who was in this situation and how she dealt with it.
http://skeptoid.com/episodes/4055
http://skeptoid.com/episodes/4180
Are germs aggressive? I mean, if someone is sick and contagious and they infect you, are they being aggressive to you?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Typhoid_Mary
http://freetalklive.com
1) Thanks for the donations
2) Cool mimic octopus
3) Listener Feedback:
I first ran across this idea in “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”
Like Stephanie I am wary of generalizations because individuals are so variable, you’ll find them all over the range. Men, women, people of different ethnicities – you might generalize about things that could come from culture and social expectation, or maybe from genetic predisposition – but you’ll find people who break the generalization.
People are so variable and changable that the generalizations might be a trap as often as it helps.
4) Question:
What do you do when you have unresolved issues from your past that cause you not to trust people in the present here and now?
In this episode we discuss whether Porc Therapy offers advice or opinions, and Mike reveals his concern over being considered an “advice podcaster.”
Hi Stephanie & Mike!
Something that’s been bugging me lately came up in a conversation earlier tonight, and I thought it might make for good PT fodder… I have a hard time meeting & maintaining relationships with women. (I’m a straight lady myself.) Well, initially meeting them is not the issue. I’m friendly and easy to talk to, but I never seem to be able to get past the acquaintance stage with new females in my life. I have several good childhood female friends, but honestly, I haven’t made a “best girl friend” in many years. I know I’m not completely socially awkward, because I have lots of male friends with whom I get along really well. Part of it, I think, is that I have NO clue what other women are thinking much of the time! I think this intimidates me. (Is this how men feel?!)
To give an example of this whole issue… I have a part time job where over 90% of the staff is female. I’ve been here for about 4 or 5 months and while I’m friendLY with my coworkers, I wouldn’t say I’m friends with any of the women here (or the men, but they’re the bosses, and a good deal older.) I try to talk to everyone and be open, yet I can’t make a connection. I crack jokes and no one laughs. **sad violin**
But I’m a happy gal, in general. I’m not even really looking to make a change. I’m curious to hear what you (and maybe a peanut or two) have to say about this topic, as I know I’m not the only one.
Thanks, guys! I love the show. It always leaves me smiling!
- sign me Anonymous
PS – let me know if I need to clarify anything; it’s 3:30 AM aka way past my bedtime!
1) Clarification of the “state” cuss word
2) [Listener feedback] Dear MICHAEL and Stephanie :)
Thank you. Although I felt bad about my sleepy word salad about Grafton Gulch, I enjoyed the rest of the episode. :) :) :)
I didn’t expect you two to be able to do therapy on me by remote control from one e-mail. However good ideas are where you find ‘em.
I am digging into Branden’s online program thanks to your recommendation.
3) Grafton Gulch Update
4) [Question] Is it true that when most men hear someone talk about a problem they start to try to fix it, but when women hear someone talk about a problem they prefer to empathize and sympathize and listen and be compassionate?
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventory
http://GraftonGulch.com
http://karakiri.com
On this episode we talk about swearing – cuss words, profanity, curses, F-bombs, etc.
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=why-do-we-swear
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seven_dirty_words#The_words
http://www.wordnik.com/words/swear
We talk about listener feedback regarding our overuse of the phrase “NBC,” our podcast’s feed stats and listenership (you!), and how Thanksgiving makes us feel.
Hi, Steph and Mike. Thank you. I enjoy listening to you on Porc Therapy and I really enjoy Stephanie’s laughter. Musical and happy sounding. I also enjoy Mike’s humor. It’s wry.
My question is this:
I have a bad relationship with myself. Please discuss ideas for improving self-esteem and attaining self-acceptance.
Meow!
We talk about how Nonviolent Communication has worked or not worked for us since we recorded episode #96.
I’m not a pick-up artist (I wish I was!), but judging from your comment on School Sucks Podcast, I think you portray the community too negative. Yea, there’s probably some guys who will tell anything to get girls into bed. But I think for most people it’s just a way to learn about confidence, adjust their totally fucked up view of reality on relationships and girls and get a nice girlfriend. Kind of like saying Anarchists all throw bombs.
http://porctherapy.com/2010/09/15/porc-therapy-081-school-sucks-for-adults-too/
http://www.schoolsucksproject.com/
Wes Bertrand, from Complete Liberty podcast (among others), joins us to talk about Nonviolent Communication.
My girlfriend of 4 years is saving herself for marriage and I have been very supportive of this but over the past 3 years we have moved from making out to “third base” (which she really enjoys). The only problem is it’s only me who’s doing the pleasuring and she doesn’t return the favor. This really frustrates me and I feel rejected. I’ve talked to her about it and she says “It’s not that I don’t want to do it but when I think about it, it feels weird.” If this continues I feel like we will break up because to me this is important because I put so much effort into pleasing her and then get no effort on her part. It feels like if I ask her for this favor then I am a jerk but if I don’t, I’m sabotaging an otherwise amazing relationship because the rejection is making me feel jaded about our relationship. Also to clarify, I asked if returning the favor contradicted her belief in abstinence (because if it did then all my previous actions do as well) and she said no.
What and how do I tell her? Should I tell her?
Stephanie and Mike discuss the utility of emotionally laden words such as “anarchy,” “capitlaism,” and “libertarian.” Words have meaning, but sometimes meanings change; what do you do about it?
What is your reputation? Is it really yours? How do you change your reputation? Why would you want to?
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